My little sister just sent me a copy of her report card.
She got all A’s and perfect behavior in all her classes except 2 of them.
I believe she sent this to me, because she thought I would be so excited she got straight A’s that I would just give her a reward…. She is sadly mistaken.
For those who don’t know, my little sister is 13 years old and very smart. Smart to the point that she finishes her work so quickly that she gets bored. Like me, when boredom sets in she can cause quite the scene. Our personalities are exactly alike so, I presented her with a deal. The deal was for perfect grades and perfect behavior and she would get a pair of shoes that she wanted.
“Great job! I see you got straight A’s. however, I also see two non perfect behavior marks (equivalent to B+’s)”
(Upset emoticon face) I don’t care!
“The deal is still on, turn those 2′s into 1′s and you get your shoes :-). A deal is a deal”
“The lesson learned here is this… In the real world as in when you’re an adult and working for a living. Bonuses, paychecks etc… are only issued out when you meet the requirements. To give you anything when you didn’t meet the requirement completely would not be indicative of life.. As an adult you don’t get stuff for just showing up. you get stuff for producing… I say that to say this, I am very proud of your grades. Great job, but I think and know you can do better in the behavior department. “
kids / people live up to your expectation. People these days give their kids stuff just for showing up. Back in my day there were no trophies or ribbons after 3rd place. Then we got soft… Now everybody is a winner. This attitude is complete bullshit and sets your kid up for failure. If I don’t push you and Im supposed to love you and be family… Who will? You learn to ride a bike via taking the training wheels off and busting your ass aka failure! You have to know defeat to respect success. Let your kids fail then they will grow.
Here is what some of my Facebook friends had to say:
You are right. Ricky Bobby said if you ain’t first your last, shake and bake! An though it was funny, it’s the truth. Who remembers who lost all Superbowls? No One! But you remember who won. Same thing. Continue to lead sir.
That’s real you gotta push these kids these days, to many distractions these days.. i do the same wit my nephew.
I’m going to use this for my soccer teams ha, you should see some of the stuff i deal with sometimes about this very subject! ha
What are your thoughts children and failure? Do you think we are too soft on kids now? What are your thoughts on my approach? Are men harder on kids than women?